Self-Care Is A Mindset: 2 Simple Steps You NEED Before Creating Your Self-care Routine


If you read our last post, you know you have some work to do. If you didn’t read it, learn how to spot the 4 Signs Your Needs Aren’t Being Met now before reading on.

 Okay, so you’ve recognized that you alone are responsible for meeting your own needs….and so far, you haven’t been crushing it in that category. What do you do with that information?

First, get clear on the gap between where you are now and where you want to be.

When you care for yourself you make sure you are meeting your needs…. these can be physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual.

Think of taking care of a baby. You don’t just give it a bottle and wipe its bum and hope it turns into a functioning member of society. You give a baby CONSISTENT love and attention. You hold a baby carefully, you soothe, sing, rock it in your arms, you entertain it, feed it healthy foods; you basically do whatever you need to do to make sure that baby feels loved, safe, happy, and healthy.

Now, imagine you are that baby (because, we were all once babies too).


Meditation Exercise

Take a moment to close your eyes and pay attention to your breath.  

Imagine yourself when you were little, being carried in your mother’s (or guardian’s) arms. Think of the loving words she whispered to you. Stay in this scene as long as feels right for you.

Notice:  what did this nurturing time feel like? Look like?

Now, visualize your life as a timeline. Starting with your childhood, ending at where you are now. Notice how you’ve changed and evolved over the years - where your priorities have shifted.

Notice: now, how nurtured do you feel? How often? What does this look like?


Journal Exercise

After your meditation/visualization, journal:

·      What are the loving words your mother/guardian told you? How did it feel to be held in her/their arms?

·      What did you notice about yourself now? How have you been showing up for yourself? How do you treat yourself and care for yourself? What are you missing?

·      How would you like to care for yourself?

·      What do you need in your life now to feel cared for in each category (physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually)?

·      What has been holding you back from fulfilling those needs?

Now, check in and acknowledge what changes need to happen to get you where you want to be.

You know where you are, and you can see what is possible on the horizon. And it is possible!  

Looking at what you’ve uncovered:

How important is it to you that you make these changes? What would happen if things didn’t change? What would your life look like in 6 months or 1 year, if you stayed on your current track?

Take this week to reflect and we’ll see you next week to talk about putting YOUR version of self-care into action!!

Renee Beauchamp