Life Coach Q&A: How to manage overwhelm and feeling behind
Momentum is an amazing thing! And hopefully if you read our post about continually taking inspired action in your business you are swimming in it!
But then what? What do you do when the opportunities start rolling in? When your personal life and work life are going SO well, you actually feel like you’re having a hard time keeping up with all your blessings! Your emails are piling up and so are your texts, dishes, laundry, and excuses why you haven’t exercised in two weeks. You feel like you’re starting the days already behind and you haven’t found the time to catch up.
Last week I was swimming in this feeling of being behind and I was super overwhelmed. I saw how that vibe of feeling stressed affected how I was showing up in each moment (rushed) and how I was showing up in my relationships (short, irritated). As aware as I am, I couldn’t figure out how to create the time and the balance I knew I needed. So I turned to the real expert - One & Many life coach, badass spiritual teacher, and the best sister and biz partner EVER – Antoinette Beauchamp to figure out HOW!
Here are the answers to your biggest questions on how to feel less overwhelmed and more balanced! Hopefully you benefit from this free coaching I’m trying to steal from my sister!
Renee: How can I find time for EVERYTHING I want to prioritize in my life? Take working out for example. If I don’t work out in the morning I won’t do it. I feel like I only have 2 options:
Go to a 6:30a class and be home by 8ish. Start work at a decent hour. Some days this feels great, but after a while I feel like I’m not getting enough sleep and it doesn’t feel good to wake up at like 5:45a every day. So I skip days. Then I stop going altogether.
Go to a 7:30 class. Get home by 9ish and start work “late”. Subsequently feel like a degen….to be fair I haven’t really tried this option.
The key words here are “after awhile I feel like I’m not getting enough sleep and it doesn’t feel good”.
There is no right or wrong with your schedule, if you feel good, keep doing it. If you’re not feeling good, STOP and choose a different day. You don’t have to do all or nothing or only ONE routine everyday. Switch it up! You can mix it all in. So, say, on Mondays and Wednesdays you go to an early class, and on Thursdays you go in the evening.
You’re also an entrepreneur. So while you can try 7:30pm, why don’t you try 9am or 10am some days? Or, even a lunchtime workout?
Sometimes the calendar feels stressful and overwhelming but if you shift your mindset into seeing self-care as equal priority to a big meeting, YOU. CAN. You simply have to make the choice. And instead of looking at your calendar like AH THIS IS SCARY. Think: Ah, this is amazing, I have so much going on! When can I schedule a workout that will add to all of this goodness?! And lastly, manage your own expectations and don’t be too hard on yourself. A little goes a long way.
Renee: For people that don’t commit to daily spiritual routines, what advice do you have for them when they’re managing stress and overwhelm?
I tell clients all the time not to be so rigid with their spiritual practice so this is the perfect question for me!
Here’s the tip: put your tool box together! And use your tools in small doses whenever you feel the stress and overwhelm creeping. For example, taking 3 deep, slow breaths every time you feel anxious or stress helps like you would not believe (I like to put essential oils – either lavender or Breathe by DoTerra on my wrists and inhaling the scent!).
Some of my favorite practices that can be used throughout the day:
Lavender and Frankincense on wrists to calm the nervous system
Prayers aka mini meditations when traveling to/from work or during lunch (this could include focusing on a mantra, an affirmation, or a prayer that you normally say in the morning or night)
Tantric meditation (quick 5-minute practice)
Journal exercise – 2-minute gratitude list at any time of day, or simply write down your intention for the day, a meeting, or a conversation you’re about to have with someone. *Note, setting intentions is SO powerful and you can do it at absolutely any time of day, it’s a miracle worker!
Those are just a few, there are SO many ways you can connect with your spiritual practice at any point in time. There are absolutely no ‘shoulds’ on your spiritual practice!
Renee: Speaking of shoulds…I’m bad at keeping with routines, but should I keep a routine? It seems like everything falls to the wayside if I don’t plan for it. (CYA self-care!)
Routines and schedules don’t come easy to a lot people, so this is completely normal! There are a couple things missing when you see certain things fall to the wayside: low need, low engagement, low desire. It’s one of these or could be a combination!
Look at your workout routine and ask yourself these questions:
What is holding you back from working out? If it’s one of the things listed in the above, acknowledge it and ask yourself WHY.
How committed are you to health and working out?
Why? What benefits does it give you?
How can you remind yourself of these benefits and choose discipline (with this flexible approach – i.e. my answer to Question #1) over disengagement?
Renee: For people on the other end of the spectrum, what advice do you have for people whose routines start to add to the stress?
Same thing as above – chill out! Be more flexible with yourself. And strive for progress, not perfection. The only one putting pressure on you is yourself. Get out of that mindset of “I have to do it all” and be intentional about what you put on your schedule. See what you can eliminate and clearly outline priorities and non-negotiables.
Renee: What would you say are the biggest things to keep in mind when you find yourself in the throws of stress, overwhelm, and feeling behind?
Keep in mind that:
You’re not alone
You can ask for help
You can ask for extensions
You are putting the pressure on yourself, check in and ask yourself why and what you can move around
You have tools to move through it productively and with calm!!
Accept where you are and accept the temporary overwhelm – it will change and it will pass, as everything does!
Queue the deep breaths… <3
Thank you for reading, hope this helped you like it helped me! If you have any more questions you can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org OR Antoinette at email@example.com.